Stop Trying to Fit In, You Need to Be Different

Stop Trying to Fit In, We Need You to Be Different

Mar 8, 2013


beyouThere was once a time in our world where renegades were outlawed.

Shot at.
Or burned at the stake.

Today, we are so much more civilized,
We mostly just talk about them behind their backs and leave them out of our social circles.

People are always telling me that they don’t feel like they fit in, and I’m usually very kind and empathetic. But after the big warm hug, what I really want to say is….


In our world today, we are so far from our true selves and live inside of hundreds of prisons, why would you want to fit in here?

I mean really, it’s about time you owned the unique parts of yourself and started celebrating.
Instead of hiding.

I have a total heart for renegades.

These are people who do things differently and upset the status quo.
Thank goodness, because status quo has always held us back as a species.
The only way we’ve ever gotten to the next level is by breaking through it.

I mean, how are we going to know what’s possible, until someone, UNTIL YOU, break through the “normal” that you’re surrounded by.

For that to happen, you’re going to have to step out, step up, get moving…and stop apologizing.

What I’m telling you, is that WE NEED you to be DIFFERENT.  Choose a different job than your family will accept.  Adopt the spiritual beliefs that feel right for you, but don’t fit well for your neighborhood. Embrace your unique spiritual gifts that don’t make sense to most people.  Educate your kids the way you believe is best for them.  Leave a bad relationship if God tells you it’s time. Tell the truth that most people aren’t willing to speak out about, let alone acknowledge exists. All these things, and many others, are brave paths that SOMEONE has to take, in order to blaze new trails in perception, and claim the exultant freedoms, for which we have been created.

There’s a reason you’re not the same as everyone else is because you were born for something more. You were born to forge a new path for yourself and those coming after you.

If you do it the same way as everyone else is doing it, you’ll get the same results they are getting.

That price is just too BIG to pay for social acceptance, when social acceptance has nothing to offer but a thin blanket for the ego that vanishes the moment you reach for it.

If you agree to be led by the group,
You are also agreeing to get the same results that they do.

But you were created to want MORE.  It’s perfectly okay for them to follow the norm, but it will never EVER be enough for you, (unless you medicate yourself, numb your senses or shut down your true self –and that’s what we call “happinness suicide.”)

You have to be willing to strike out on your own for awhile, and see what’s possible. Even if it means you feel a little bit alone, and even if it means that people that you love, disagree with you, or don’t like you very much.

That’s okay, and in fact, it’s very common (kind of standard actually.)  Sometimes it’s just the way things are when we are blazing new trails.  (Usually, they come around when they see you’re not changing. They have to, if they are going to live in peace with themselves, because ultimately they see the truth that YOUR LIFE is none of their business.)

But until then, you’ll have to stop consulting with the group and make some new commitments.

For Example:

Only TAKE ADVICE from the people who LIVE where YOU WANT TO GO.

I personally never allow people to advise me unless they have DIRECT EXPERIENCE (and positive results) with what I am seeking to create. The worst people to get counsel from are those who think they know, but they have no true personal experience. For example, in the early days of my career, I took advice from people who said women could never be successful at raising a family if they had a job on the side.  But those people had no real experience creating what I wanted to create, so of course they believed that, and that belief was right–for them.  But it wasn’t right for me, and they couldn’t advise me well. They didn’t know the way because they had never LIVED it themselves, and they weren’t being called to. We often think things can’t be done (or shouldn’t be done) … until WE’VE DONE THEM, and not until, will we see differently.

If you can’t find the right people close to you, STRIKE OUT in WIDER CIRCLES.
There are people like you out there, you just aren’t connected to them yet, and you might be letting yourself get shut down by people who were never meant to be your advisors.

If you don’t see a trail in front of you, then you’re being called to make your own.

So, if you feel a little bit alone, I want you to know that there’s nothing wrong, in fact, EVERYTHING IS JUST PERFECTLY RIGHT.

FYI. Here are a few other symptoms of “Changemakers” … Pathfinders … Trailblazers…

*You’re not sure if you have any right to think the way you do, but you still would never choose to live any other way.

*You feel like people don’t understand you, so you often keep those thoughts to yourself to avoid conflict or confrontation.

*You feel increasingly uncomfortable with teachings & conversations that represent unconscious ways of living.

If that’s you … YOU’RE in good company with me.

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